Today a lot of people are going to get lucky. They are going to read my article! (rimshot) When one considers love from an astrological perspective, one is usually thinking of two archetypes. The moon is one of them, and Venus is the other. The moon usually discusses what someone needs to feel loved. Venus, on the other hand, describes what they love.
Of the two, Venus is probably a better archetype for Valentine’s day because its nature is peaceful as well as receptive. When holidays like Venus abound, they honor the more “tender” emotions of humanity. It would be odd, for example, to feature movies dedicated to war on Valentine’s day, although more than a few people could probably relate.
Venus likes to indulge. Venus likes to desire. It does not desire in the way Pluto desires. Plutonic desire is desire for the sake of desire with more than a twinge of power behind it. Venus doesn’t care for power. It cares more for beauty. It cares for harmony. Pluto wants what it wants, and harmony can go straight to hell, literally.
When two people fall in love, what is happening at an archetypical level is that they are able to reach a compromise that is harmonious between them. When there is harmony between two people, the give and the take is in balance. It is neither parasitic nor greedy. Because this harmony exists, it is possible for two people to join together and combined be more than they might be as single units. The act of sex is, ideally, a combination of these two elements in a harmonious loving union. When this works as it should, often new life is the consequence.
Venus typically desires to find harmony with Mars. Whereas Venus is feminine, Mars is masculine. Hence, genders play somewhat into these archetypes as “Men are from Mars,and Women are from Venus.” Though it is possible to have same genders take on these roles, I dare say that the harmony achieved is not quite what is intended from an archetypical perspective. That’s not to say that same sex unions are inherently bad or inferior. It’s just to say they are not archetypically about opposites finding a harmonious middle ground. Love between different genders is a different animal than love between the same gender. Mars doesn’t play the role of Venus all that well, and Venus doesn’t play the role of Mars all that well, and hence the fundamental limitation of gender as a physical construct is discerned.
Regardless, whatever your orientation, if your relationship does not feature Venus as the unification point, odds are that it soon will not be a relationship at all. It’s Venus or bust–and any other polarity that comes together that doesn’t compromise is bound to fail.